A collection of musings, original frameworks, practical tools, and discoveries from the journey toward Awareness, Wonder & Embodiment. None of these ideas are new — but every perspective is another chance to let them land.
Stories from the journey. The moments that cracked something open — at the rental car counter, in the ocean, during morning chant. The universal truths that need to be heard again and again, through a different pair of eyes each time.
Surrender isn't defeat. It isn't yielding to an enemy or relinquishing power. What if it is simply accepting reality — the way things actually are, shaped by a billion converging factors, none of which have any interest in fighting you?
Read the full piece →Most of us were trained to weigh pros and cons. What if every outcome — the promotion and the rejection, the smooth plan and the fallen-apart one — contained equal usefulness?
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Excerpts and reflections from the forthcoming memoir
Ideas worth sitting with.
Original frameworks, concepts, and tools born from the intersection of analytical thinking and inner work. Not new ideas — but new ways of holding them. Each one is a different handle on the same door.
Most of us are walking around trigger-happy — reacting before we realize we've been activated. Understanding your triggers isn't about eliminating them. It's about creating the space between event and response.
Coming soon →A reframe of the classic pros and cons decision model. When non-attachment enters the equation, every outcome reveals its own form of usefulness — and the fear of the wrong choice begins to dissolve.
Read the framework →In any given moment, a billion factors have converged to produce what is. We see one — the one closest to us — and mistake it for the cause. This is the Billion Things Rule.
Read the framework →Instead of regret that leaves you wishing things in the past were different — REflect and GET a plan. A simple reframe that turns backward-looking rumination into forward-moving clarity.
Coming soon →On processing, venting, and where your energy is best spent. Sometimes the most efficient listener costs nothing and asks nothing in return.
Coming soon →The Billion Things Rule · Decision Making Series · and more
Rod Serling didn't just write science fiction. He wrote parables about the human condition — ego, fear, attachment, identity. Each episode is a spiritual teaching in disguise. This series finds the lesson hiding in the twist.
The Twilight Zone as spiritual teacher — one episode, one lesson, one piece at a time
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Awareness without practice is just information. These are the tools, exercises, and experiments that turn insight into lived experience — the bridge between knowing and being.
Instead of being consumed by an activating event, what if you could reframe it as a learning opportunity in real time? This tool walks you through Albert Ellis' ABC model — and the DEF extension that changes everything.
Coming soon →Four evidence-based breathing practices — from box breathing to alternate nostril — and how to find the one your nervous system responds to.
Coming soon →Meditation approaches · Gratitude practices · The 30-Day Experiment · and more
Analytical writing from a career that spanned corporate law, wellbeing research, and coaching. Published articles, formal essays, and explorations of the intersection between the professional and the personal.
Published pieces from the Connecticut Bar Association's Wellbeing Committee — coming soon
On decision making, productivity, burnout, and the analytical mind's path inward
Excerpts from the forthcoming memoir — a logical path to peace, belief not required
Books, films, podcasts, and teachers that have shaped the journey. Shared here because the best thing we can do for each other is point toward what opened a door for us — in case it opens one for you.
Michael Singer's foundational work on the relationship between the self and the voice inside your head. The book that changed everything — highly recommended for the analytical reader who has been waiting for permission to go inward.
Martin Seligman's introduction to positive psychology — the science of what makes life worth living, rather than just the study of what goes wrong. The foundation behind the AWE method.
Viktor Frankl's account of finding purpose in the most unimaginable circumstances. A masterclass in the space between stimulus and response — and why that space is everything.
Films · Podcasts · Teachers · Practices
Millions of people are still being told to "raise their frequency" and "ask the universe." The science of why some of this works — and why the parts that don't are genuinely harmful — has been hiding in plain sight. This series brings it into the light.
The Law of Attraction has sold over 35 million copies. Some people swear by it. Others tried and felt blamed for everything that went wrong in their lives. The truth — grounded in positive psychology and decades of research — is more interesting than either side admits.
Coming soon — subscribe below to be notified →Your thoughts don't attract objects. But they do direct your attention — and attention changes everything. Here's what the research actually shows about how a focused mind shapes outcomes.
Coming soon →Gratitude isn't mystical vibration. It's one of the most researched interventions in positive psychology — and it works for measurable, logical reasons. This is what The Secret stumbled onto without knowing why.
Coming soon →Based on Tan's forthcoming work — The Law of Attention and Appreciation